Most of the films in Bollywood show the boy or girl rich or poor hating each other or their parents fighting each other. My foreign Professor once asked me after seeing a movie ( I took great pains to explain him the story of Bobby in the cinema hall itself : a story of rich parents preventing their boy from marrying a poor girl ) that parents here have one job to find a match for the girl which she does not like or a boy does not like his bride to be searched by the parents. They want to marry a girl or boy of their own choice. Khandan ki izzat (Honour of the family) has to be given top priority. It is another matter that many boys who fall in love instantly and later on discover their parents already have a bride for them which they selected when they were borne or 5 years old.There are good boys and girls who sacrifice their choice to the whims of their parents and remain sad rest of life or atleast as they show in films. Love aj kal story is story of the day from both sides now . There are many devoted love affairs and devoted couples and I salute them. However most of the time at least as shown in films here,parents in Orient have one major role that is to look for their khandan ki izzat . If the boy whom the girl loves belongs is rich, khandan ki izzat is taken careof but if the boy is hardworking poor, he is are not acceptable. Some time to please the ego of rich viewers of the film the poor boy is found to be lost son of some Rai Sahib, a title bestowed on loyal people who were rich also during British raj period (but now we have neo rich rai sahibs with immense wealth coming to them apparently from no where as they are shwon doing no hard work except giving dictations to secretaries ) .Floods or dacoits or train accidents or kidnapping are main cause of lost son of rich parents in the films. Are there any reallife reports of rich sons finding their lost rich parents. Caste system aside the biggest caste system is class system. Dowry plays important role in marriage taking place or breaking them. It works as handy tool to put in laws behind the bars in just one complaint. A society on path of modernism is failing to understand true aspirations of its youth. Many young couples face the wreath of society or parents or traditions as if they are a commodity and not individuals. Parents find their boy as saleable commodity. Some time opposite is also true . Most films show the change of heart in last stage of film. Perhaps the parents in West spend more time in gardening and care for their garden and kitchen garden as they dont have to find a match for their boy or girl or to follow them knowing their hideouts and protecting them from "friends" . As parents in West spend more time in nature and its fresh air they live longer and healthier. A healthy nation is a rich nation. Nature is wealth that needs to be preserved by all. The topic of my blog is not love story but attitudes. . People must be wondering what makes change of heart to happen. What is the genetic basis of change of attitudes and how the environment plays a role in it. Nature and gardens hills water falls are shown as commonplace for falling in love and dry and barren hills and sandy plains and dust storms when failing in love. Could nature and its beauty stop promoters for some hate hormones or their precursors and promote signalling to make some love hormones or initiate their promoters to become active ? Biotechnology aj kal ( Biotechnology of today) may not have answer but I feel nature and its beuty are the answers. Nature provides clean air and pollution free air could clean minds as well. I have seen people fighting and dying or killing each other for some faint ideas which are not realizable in light of the day. What could make them change their attitudes? Some times change in attitude take place as there was no way out or more progressive parents love and respect wishes of their children enjoy their happy life in the end. We need more hospitals as worrying rich parents mostly end up in Heart hospitals as they spend most of the time working or caring and hardly have any time to go in garden or take jogging. The children have to then spend extra time and energy and nations money is wasted on sick people in old age. A nation of healthy old people will be a rich nation. Nature could make you sick or healthy. Love nature and remain healthy. How nations could change their attitudes? I have seen nations on the brink of war joining Unions or alliances of military nature which might not have been thinkable some 20 years ago. What made them change the attitude? How societies rotting in old ideas and ideologies could be changed to fresh breathing societies. Fresh breathing societies are not free sex societies (as is common conception of west in east) but they are self respecting societies with devotion to duty and respecting each others values.However they do have their problems in their hearts too as they have highest divorce rates but marriage is neither beginning or end of life for them. Its only one superficial part of it at least as one gathers from outside. If the entire world changes its attitude and vows not to fight or steal or invade anybody, a world peace could be established. Live and let live could become a reality. How the attitude of a boy or girl could be changed? How the outlook of man could be changed. How the outlook of nations could be changed? Could the same phenomenon be there for changing attitudes of the nations also? Nature will certainly help bringing peace on the mother earth Give love a chance and feel the difference.