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    Infidelity - Why People Cheat
    By News Staff | September 8th 2008 01:00 AM | 3 comments | Print | E-mail | Track Comments
    The probability of someone cheating during the course of a relationship varies between 40 and 76 percent. "It's very high," says Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier, PhD student at the Université de Montréal's Department of Psychology.

    According to psychologists, people with avoidant attachment styles are individuals uncomfortable with intimacy and are therefore more likely to multiply sexual encounters and cheat. But this has never been proved scientifically, which is what Beaulieu-Pelletier attempted to do in a series of four studies.

    The student wanted to know if the type of commitment a person has with his or her loved ones is correlated to the desire of having extra-marital affairs. "The emotional attachment we have with others is modeled on the type of parenting received during childhood," she says.

    The first study was conducted on 145 students with an average age of 23. Some 68 percent had thought about cheating and 41 percent had actually cheated. Sexual satisfaction aside, the results indicated a strong correlation between infidelity and people with an avoidant attachment style.

    "These numbers indicate that even if we get married with the best of intentions things don't always turn out the way we plan. What interests me about infidelity is why people are willing to conduct themselves in ways that could be very damaging to them and to their relationship."

    The second study was conducted on 270 adults with an average age of 27. About 54 percent had thought about cheating and 39 percent had actually cheated. But the correlation is the same: people with an avoidant attachment style are more likely to cheat.

    "Infidelity could be a regulatory emotional strategy used by people with an avoidant attachment style. The act of cheating helps them avoid commitment phobia, distances them from their partner, and helps them keep their space and freedom."

    Both these studies were followed up by two other studies that asked about the motives for infidelity. The will to distance themselves from commitment and their partner was the number one reason cited.

    Her studies revealed no differences between men and women. Just as many men and women had an avoidant attachment style and the correlation with infidelity is just as strong on both sides. "Contrary to popular belief, infidelity isn't more prevalent in men," she says.

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    Gerhard Adam
    From May 2007

    Jennifer S. Hirsch, PhD, associate professor of Sociomedical Sciences at Columbia University Mailman School of Public Health, is principal investigator on a large comparative study showing that the inevitability of men’s infidelity in marriage is true across cultures.

    Sept 2008:

    Her studies revealed no differences between men and women. Just as many men and women had an avoidant attachment style and the correlation with infidelity is just as strong on both sides. "Contrary to popular belief, infidelity isn't more prevalent in men," she says.

    Well ...wonder what this means for Allele 334?
    Mundus vult decipi
    I have cheated in the past. Reason is like the really poor joke: Scientists have discovered a food stuff that causes the sex drive of a woman to drop to zero. Do you know what that food is? Answer: Wedding Cake.

    Women change. Along the way when men don't change as well, we are called immature and selfish and little boys. Much fun is made of the fact that men don't change. All the while it is ok for a woman to go into a vow, an oath, a contract, then change, but nobody calls them on that. Nope, that isn't allowed. That would be immature of us men to point out the obvious. Then the justice system rewards women for their disloyalty to the vow, the oath, the contract. So men say fuck it, I'll just get it somewhere else. Or like me now, this time around, stop wanting it, because the 5 to 15 minutes isn't worth the mood swings, the lying, the obvious fact that 99% of women use sex as a weapon, a tool to control men.

    That is why men cheat.

    Thank you.

    Gerhard Adam
    I was trying to determine if the number of people questioned were married, or simply indicating cheating in a relationship.  Since the first survey consisted of 145 students, I'd be surprised if they were all married.

    I suspect that might skew some of the expected results (i.e. people view cheating in a relationship a bit differently than cheating in a marriage).
    Mundus vult decipi