Ladies, If You Want More Sex, Do More Housework
    By News Staff | February 3rd 2013 06:19 PM | 8 comments | Print | E-mail | Track Comments

    Sociologists have settled an important debate - namely, do women really want a man that does housework. The answer is 'no', according to an important new paper which found that married men and women who divide household chores in traditional ways report having more sex than couples who share the women's work.  

    Other studies have found that husbands got more sex if they did more housework, implying that women appreciated that in their spouse, or, since sociologists usually find the worst way to spin everything, that the sex was in exchange for doing housework. But those studies did not factor in what types of chores the husbands were doing, according to the new paper in the journal American Sociological Review which found that sex isn't a bargaining chip. Instead, sex is linked to what types of chores each spouse completes. 

    Couples who follow traditional gender roles around the house – wives do the cooking, cleaning and shopping while men do yard work, pay bills and work on cars – reported greater sexual frequency. The findings came from a national survey of about 4,500 heterosexual married U.S. couples participating in the National Survey of Families and Households. The data were collected from 1992 to 1994, the most recent large-scale survey available that measured sexual frequency in married couples. The sociologists believe it is unlikely that the division of housework, which did not include child care in this study, and sex have changed much in 20 years. Because that would invalidate the whole paper.

    They found that husbands, with an average of age 46, and wives, with an average age of 44, spent a combined 34 hours a week on traditionally female chores. Couples spent an additional 17 hours a week on chores usually thought of as men's work. Husbands performed about 20% of traditionally female tasks and a little more than 50% of the male tasks. This suggests that wives help out with men's chores more often than husbands help with female tasks.  

    Men and women reported having sex about five times, on average, in the month prior to the survey. But marriages in which the wife does all the traditionally female tasks reported having had sex about 1.6 times more per month than those where the husband does all the traditionally female chores. The early 1990s were apparently a pretty good time to be a married guy no matter what.

    The researchers ruled out other possible explanations for their findings, such as:

    • Husbands being sexually coercive did not have a role, because wives reported similar levels of satisfaction in their sex lives whether they were in households with traditional or nontraditional divisions of labor.
    • Two-income households had comparable patterns of sexual frequency and division of household chores relative to households where a spouse did not work outside the home. Similarly, wives' income was unrelated to how often the couple had sex.
    • Other variables such as happiness in marriage, religion and gender ideology did not have a role.

    "Marriage today isn't what it was 30 or 40 years ago, but there are some things that remain important," said co-author Julie Brines, a University of Washington associate professor of sociology. "Sex and housework are still key aspects of sharing a life, and both are related to marital satisfaction and how spouses express their gender identity."


    Bonny Bonobo alias Brat
    Has anyone done a study that shows an inverse correlation between the less housework a wife does the more sex she and her husband have, just to shut him up? Or maybe it works both ways, a woman does lots of housework and has lots of sex, does not much housework and has lots of sex too. Maybe sex is just the great equaliser or pacifier? After all, let's face it, men always seem to want sex! So maybe, all this study is showing is that the more psychologically disempowered a woman is the more sex she has to keep her husband happy?
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    You sound like you don't like doing housework

    Bonny Bonobo alias Brat

    That's true, does anyone, except for maybe my mother in law? She once took me into the garden and showed me clean washing hanging on the line in the sunshine and told me that nothing makes her happier than that sight! However, i do like shopping and cooking and even cleaning the kitchen but would rather employ cleaners to do the rest and have plenty of sex instead :)

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    After all, let's face it, men always seem to want sex!
    All evidence to the contrary, especially given the fact that recovery time between orgasms is typically longer for men.
    So, is this cause and effect? I'll just put the vacuum cleaner away then.
    Let me guess, the researchers were men.
    said co-author Julie Brines, a University of Washington associate professor of sociology.
    Good job commenting on the title.
    There's no claim here that the direction of causality is revealed. The claim is non-random correlation, which if true is enough to warrant confidence that there is a causal linkage.

    But really, it doesn't matter if they're men or women. What matters is the robustness of the methodology. That's what methodology is about: filtering people's private problems out. You could read the paper and see if it's faulty; but till then all you know about it is what's in this short news article, which potentially might not even be very representative.

    Is this article stating that the less a man does, the more sex he will receive? I think not! I believe dividing housework is essential but also the husband should help with the woman's chores as well. In my perspective If a man is helping, even just a small amount, this shows me respect which would lead to a more engaged love life. Yes, the traditional way of thinking is the woman cleaning and cooking etc. But If your husband/boyfriend surprised you with a meal or a clean house every once in a while wouldn't you want to engage sexually?