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    Why People Unfriend You On Facebook - The Science Answer
    By Hank Campbell | October 6th 2010 10:07 AM | 4 comments | Print | E-mail | Track Comments
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    Some of the most pressing questions in science aren't how to better treat cancer or solve global warming, they're instead practical things like why a stranger on the Internet takes you off of a pretend friend list.

    In the old days, email lists had filters, so when your brother-in-law sent you the 50th forwarded list of lawyer jokes, you just sent them right into the trash.  On Facebook, it is not so simple - okay, actually it is, there is a hide feature built right in so you never see some things.   But people still unfriend someone, which can lead to drama.

    With 500 million users worldwide, Facebook can be an anthropology and psychology tool too.   We have learned that experts can single out narcissists by their Facebook pages and that, brain activity-wise, the line between psychopathy and narcissism is slight.   
     
    So using the wealth of users available all on a common platform, Christopher Sibona, a PhD student in the Computer Science and Information Systems program at  University of Colorado Denver, set out to answer the question a lot of angst-ridden teenage girls want to know; "why did you take me off your Facebook friend list?"

    The number one reason - a lot of trivial, unimportant posts was number one (like my blog, given this topic).

    Number two reason - too much talk of religion and politics.   People on the Internet seem to have lost sight of the same common-sense rules our parents instilled in us, including our parents.

    Read Science Codex for the rest.

    Comments

    Becky Jungbauer
    Reason number one is the reason I unfriended a few people. But, you can cut down on the number of people you have to unfriend by only friending people that (a) you're actually friends with in real life and communicate with outside of facebook, and (b) not having friends that discuss inane topics like when they finished doing the laundry. P.S. Is anyone else worried about the future of the English language that I can use the word friend as a verb without anyone blinking an eye?
    Hank
    Not me.  Language is dynamic!   :)

    If I only had real-life friends on my Facebook list it would be really boring, so I just use the hide feature there if it gets a lot of clutter.  That said, I have about 2000 people on my personal list there and still can't figure out how to use that site.  For $500 million spent it isn't intuitive so I have no way to shape the 'newsfeed' I get from them, thus hiding some is the last resort.
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    Hfarmer
    My friends list is all people I know or at least knew in real life.  There is practically no one with whom I have a strictly internet based friendship.  I do have some 100% internet based acquaintances.... on youtube but that feels different because I can see and hear them. 
    I think the trick to keeping facebook friends is to not just post stuff that interest you and that you think will be of interest to others.  In addition one must comment on the things their friends post...from time to time.  Or better still go to the events they post up and reconnect with them in the flesh. If people know that you will do that, it will keep you friends. A PhD was really needed to figure that out? 
    Science advances as much by mistakes as by plans.
    Becky Jungbauer
    I think some have defaulted to online relationships as a proxy for staying connected in real life outside of FB, and I don't agree with that (unless, of course, it's something like YouTube or Scientific Blogging or other forum where the point is to connect diverse and distant folks online). But there are benefits, like photos and events that you wouldn't know of otherwise.